A journey with ordinary story

Life really can take you turn 180 degrees. Owh... children, how I have a love-hate relationship with you.  My last entry was about how I have decided not to have my own children. Have I changed my mind? Since then, I have learnt a lot about parenting and early childhood education. Weird? This is just how things go. If I don't like something (in this case children), it does not mean I can't love them right? So I just want to get to know them better. Well, children... you guys are genius! I am amazed on things I am learning. You little human being...so annoying, clingy and attention seeker. No, I don't hate them. I have learnt to accept that they are just being children. We are all once are children. But we always feel that we can't handle them, feeling that they are so demanding? It comes back to a self-reflection. We have always putting expectations on how one should behave, how one should not do this and that, but we forgot that these children is growing up, just star...

I have a couple of experiences taking care of my niece (2 years and 6 months old ) and nephew (4 yrs 10 months old) while my sister and her husband were away. Of course I was not alone. Actually their intention was to leave them with my parents, but it just happened that I was with my parents as well then.  This might be an untraditional thoughts. People said I might feel differently if I have my own child, one born from my womb. Someones said to me, "It's indescribable feeling. Yes, you'll have not enough sleep, endless chores, demands of attention, little time for yourself, but it will all worth it". Really? Knowing me, I feel like it's not for me. It's also not something I can just try, because when it happened, you have to commit for it. I don't want to be unfair to the child. It's not a responsibility that I'm willing to take. That's why I despise parents who neglect their child, and worse even abuse this tender human being...

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2019/may/15/teenage-girl-kills-herself-after-instagram-poll-in-malaysia https://www.thestar.com.my/news/nation/2019/05/17/cops-teen-who-committed-suicide-after-instagram-poll-suffered-from-depression/ https://www.bbc.com/news/world-48281152 https://www.thestar.com.my/news/nation/2019/05/16/outcry-over-teenagers-death/ The recent tragedy of a Sarawakian teenager's death last month who made a poll on Instagram, allegedly on her life before her death has been getting global attention. Ironically the incident occurred during the week of Mental Health Awareness Week (13 - 19 May - it starts every year on 2nd Monday in May). Following this tragedy, again, people start to discuss the issue of mental health seriously. It’s a bless in disguise, however unfortunately it is sad to see that mental health seems to have become seasonal discussion. Only when something happened, people will talk about it, and take it seriously, start looking for...

Just to let the reader know the current situation: I joined an insurance company in the mid of 2014 and resigned in early Sept 2017 without a job. Later, I came back to the industry in early Dec 2017. This is inspired from some friends who have been asking me how do I make decision to just submit my resignation without having a job to fall back to? Was it just spur of the moment? How do I have the courage to do so? What about my financial commitment? Was I not afraid to be unemployed? Well, it’s actually not that simple and it was not an impromptu decision. I might not have a clear plan, but I had a plan. If you read my past entry, this dormant period of of not working is not the first time. I have experienced it when I quit my job as a medical doctor at a government hospital. Will this become a trend for me? I’m not sure. But for some people (read: me) , 2 weeks of leave might not be enough. They just need that long break. So far 3 months break works for me, but honestly I do...

== Book Review == 1.  The Color of Inequality by Muhammed Abdul Khalid 2.  Rich Malaysia, Poor Malaysians by Anas Alam Faizli @anasalamfaizli   This is a long pending review which has been due for over a month. I ’m afraid I wouldn’t do justice. Both are just too good, hope my review helps. Read these books back to back because both are about the same issue, i,e; INEQUALITY, not anywhere else, but here in our beloved Malaysia. It took me quite some time to finish and digest. It’s a serious issue, but it’s so interesting that made me read some parts twice! Book 1 is like a thesis, provides statistic data from colonial times to millennium times, as we can see the shift of our economic base and help understand how gap occurred between races and how the gap of inequality did not did not change much for that 20 years. The data is shocking but it is not surprising when we see the reality around us. Inequality happened in every category either race/ethnic,s...

= Book Review= Breathe by Beni Rusani ( @drbenirusani ) Finished this book in 2 days.  Interesting & recommended! 👍👍👍 The flash back moments of Adam's life to his housemanship time reminds me back during the time I was a houseman. During housemanship, anywhere, I think would have ; that fierce specialist/MO that live up to his/her nicknames (do we give nicknames?) that specialist who would find time to teach his/her junior colleagues who were just started to breath the air of hell that kind-hearted medical officers who still remember they were once a houseman too, and treated you like a friend that fellow houseman who is a know-it-all and despise other housemen for being incompetent, and make his/her job difficult that fellow houseman who is smart enough to leave when the shift is over that staff nurse who always looked down on houseman The list can go on and on. It had its ugliness yet the kind MOs & specialis...

I came across this post a while ago and thinking this is really beneficial to be shared with. From his use of example, the generous doctor must be a surgeon, but I believe this tips can be applied in any department. He also shared his experience with his fellow HOs. To those who always got scolded for presenting your cases poorly to fellow colleagues, digest this and make sure it stuck in your brain , not in your colon :p ===================================================== Source: https://www.facebook.com/aimir711/posts/10153996949444888 Facebook name: Aimir Ma’rof I will say that 90% of a doctor’s job is to talk. We present cases, do referral, talk to seniors, teach the juniors, asking help from nurses/PPK, explain to patients. We talk all the time! Communication is very pertinent in this line of work. The management for any patients starts with a clerking and case presentation. This is the most important part of being a doctor. Hones...